1 over 80. That is the actual proportion of autistic babies, according to what Franco Antonello said tonight while being interviewed on Tv at ‘Le invasioni barbariche‘.
Andrea, his autistic son, was there in the studios with him, playing with his I-Pad, moving his hands like a crazy butterfly and stealing the anchorwoman’s papers. Franco took his a curly long-haired teenager with him for the interview because he strongly wanted it. Though getting scared for a while when he entered the studios, Andrea stayed quite calm during the whole chat. He got excited just when he saw the mountains on the screen which showed some of the pictures these father and son took while travelling together.
This travelling together gave birth to a wonderful book, ‘If I hug you, don’t be afraid’, written by Fulvio Ervas and already translated and distributed in many countries (Franco confessed he was almost thrilled when he saw the Chinese cover). I don’t know what you think about it, but I feel cuddled everytime I repeat to myself this very title. It sounds like a sweet embrace itself, the sweetest sentence a parent could use for his scared son to calm and feel reassured. Franco took Andrea to a 3-months travel to America. After years spent in hospitals, treatments, therapies, Franco decided to leave for a different type of adventure, just the two of them, to explore some bits of this wonderful world and spend together the thrilling sensations of discoveries. Unpredictable, like Andrea.
1 over 80 autistic babies. 400.000 just in Italy. After the book, after the interviews that spread the story of his travel with his son, Franco started receiving hundreds of e-mails from parents and siblings of autistic guys. Full of questions and the urgent need of suggestions. “I don’t feel like giving scientific and medical advice, I don’t have recipes. I work in communication and I feel things, I don’t have proper solutions for myself. I feel, instinctively” he said during the interview. But he felt like giving some practical advice.
During his travels all around Italy and the world, he happened to see a lot of desperate situations, without either institutional and social support. “Families can’t cope with autism on their own, mothers and fathers don’t have to feel they are alone”. Franco and Andrea might have more many economical and cultural possibilities if compared with other poorer and isolated families, but “we’re doing all that also for them, for people who don’t have our ways to deal with this condition. We’re talking about situations that are similar to Andrea’s one because we want them to find a voice.
We resist, if we do exist. ”
I strongly recommend this book. It helped me to perceive the power of an authentic story.